Reader Feedback - The NoNonsense Man®

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"I'm a huge fan of your work. At first I was put off by the incendiary nature of your initial presentation, and then I came to appreciate it because it's calling attention to such valuable content. You not only address a person's frustration over hostility between the sexes, you also offer him a sensible and logical way out of it. I'll bet there are a few less bitter and lonely people in the world because of you."

Janina K
Berkeley, CA

"Your books are intensely brilliant and of paramount importance in today's world. We need men to be inspired and transformed by your work on a massive scale, across the entire western world."

Russ W
New York City

"A book that starts you off the right way -- the second chapter is entitled "Who Are You?" -- and the third is "Who is She?" -- because, without knowing yourself and what you're looking for, you're destined to fail eventually. You see, this book is not just about dating -- there's self-help involved here as well.

I feel the same way as Marc does on many issues involving men and women -- but his story of the man with a Porsche sounded familiar and made me realize a few things about myself. I won't get into this "mini-transformation" I had here, but last month, instead of buying a $100K+ luxury sports car -- I bought a $30K sedan.

My new car isn't exactly "cool," it's not sexy, it's not that expensive -- but it suits me just fine and I saved a lot of money. And on top of that, it automatically filters out women who would think of me as a potential "ATM Machine."

Heck, I guess in a way Marc helped me realize this in a crystal-clear way that he actually saved me close to $100,000, and saved me from future headaches with a "Princess."

Make the small investment -- that's right, an investment. You'd probably waste way more than the cost of this book by buying drinks for women you meet at a bar."

Michael J. Kim
Pacific Palisades, CA

"Thank you for writing your great book -- your insightful wisdom is a gift to all who read it. Please count on me to tell my friends about your book and Website, even the married ones, so they can tell their friends! Welcome to 2006 everybody."

Kate M.
Los Angeles, CA

"I like the way you describe the positive things to look for in a woman & what it may mean further on down the road. Maybe I've got a good potential partner in the works right now ... Your book helps to put a better focus on the relationship, for the both of us."

Mike N.
Portland, ME

"I just wanted to say thank you for such a great book! I discovered you on the 'Tom Leykis Show.' I was blown away with the straightforward and concise way you present your topic. In reading the first 3 chapters, it really socked me in the head to rid my depression about a recent breakup. I concluded that I'm attracted to 'Fixer Uppers,' making me a more conscious person. I know what to look out for in future dates. Thanks again!"

Tom R.
Saratoga, CA

"I really enjoyed Marc Rudov's 'take' on the dating/singles scene. His book enlightened and empowered me! His humourous writing style and very valuable advice gave me a completely different perspective about what men want and need. Before reading the Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women, I was making the same mistakes over and over in several relationships. When I saw myself in the pages of Marc's book, I definitely could take a step back to recognize that I really needed to change my "strategy." Marc's work has helped me navigate through dating more effectively and develop a stronger sense of who I am and what I want in a man as well."

Cathy Guterman
New York City

"Great Book. Thanks for the advice. I am about your age and have experienced many of the same things, except marriage. I very much relate to your insights and, as a result of reading your book, have totally overhauled my approach to dating. It paid off in the first week. I shed two relationships that were not going anywhere, and I found one on Match.com that I pre-qualified before we met -- it looks like this might be the right woman for me. If it works out, I'm sending you a bottle of Champagne! Thanks again."

Jude W.
Coral Gables, FL

"I could have used this book for the last 30 years. Would have saved me from a lot of heartache and problems. Marc is an old highschool buddy, and I originally bought the book to show him support. But, during and after reading, I realized it would have been a bargain at twice the price. Should be required for men and women everywhere. I would even go as far as saying it should be required reading for highschool and college students."

Tice R.
Ocean City, NJ

"I just finished your book this evening and enjoyed it thoroughly. You're obviously "evolved," because I don't believe most men bother to postulate about any of this stuff, let alone figure any of it out! Hopefully your book will change that, and men will heed your illuminations and adjust their patterns and behaviors to succeed in romance.

But what a feat to get men to follow the directions or use the map! Not what they're known to do. But, being an optimist, I still believe there are some men out there who really want to improve the quality of their relationships and will make the effort to do what's necessary to achieve that. I hope so, anyway. I'm not ready to throw in the towel on having a quality, successful relationship just yet.

Based on the women you've encountered and described in the vingettes, are women really that shallow? I wonder, really. Because I was a debutante who mastered all the social programming and queues, I must admit. But, I can't believe I acted out in the ways you described. Not moi! Your scenarios and vingettes made me laugh! And, the drama you and your friends have seen! But, regardless of whether I saw myself in your stories, I have other issues, I'm sure!

Looking at women in their 20s, I wonder if the dating scene is just getting worse. I look at these young women (girls) and wonder where is their depth of character? Where's the substance? Everything seems so external and instant. What a rough dating terrain to navigate for young men and women. And who's teaching them?? I'm 42 and NOT shallow, but a satisfying relationship still eludes me. I understand myself better than I understand men, so thanks for sharing your male perspective.

Your book prompts discussion, which is exactly what it should do. I even think you could turn those vingettes into a romantic comedy, teaching men, all the while, about women. Mel Gibson's movie with Helen Hunt, What Women Want, is the closest thing I can think of along these lines. Good job, and much success with the book."

Carla M.
San Francisco, CA

"This book is brillant and clearly explains how men and women are conditioned to the point where they grow up believing they're from different planets. Rudov points out how to break the old habits of distrusting the other sex and end the stereotypes and myths. This courageous writer goes against the tide of sexist rubbish out there nowadays, from the likes of John Gray and Michael Gurian, and brings forth wonderful, new ways for men and women to relate. I agree with him that 'men and women are virtually the same' because it is true. All we need do is break down the social taboos, sterotypes, myths, and barriers so engrained in pop culture to realize that men and women are people, not opposite sexes."

Amee H.
England, UK

"I totally agree with you. I am a 20-year-old female who is so relieved to hear that I am not a misguided, confused person, or a strange breed of female because I tend to be more aggressive, have a high sex drive, watch porn (by myself), take control, and avoid romantic mush. I'm so sick of all the Dr. Phil-type crap out now that seems to perpetuate the stereotypes our gender already faces, not to mention unfairly labeling men as being Neanderthal, brainless scum. It's absurd! How can people fall for it? We already know that people come in all different shapes, sizes, and colors, with different attitudes, preferences, and personalities to match. And, yet, we get spoon-fed the same lies every day about how men and women are so different and how one sex behaves and how another doesn't. Veeeery intelligent indeed."

Stacey
Lockport, IL

"I bought your book this afternoon at Barnes & Noble and have read two chapters. I am impressed and already have had at least two, really good, ah ha!! insights that I know will help me on my journey. Thanks for those insights. I shall read on."

George P.
Los Altos, CA

"When a friend first told me about this book, I became interested immediately. I sat down to read it, twice, on a Saturday afternoon, and, as as they say....'I just couldn't put it down!' I could relate personally to just about every page. I would read a chapter, then reflect on its content, and think to myself...'My G-d, that is right on, and that happened to me during my relationship with...' I highly recommend this book to everyone who is in a relationship, either good or bad, or anyone who is even contemplating a relationship in the near future. Before dipping your toes into the dating pool, read The Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women! It will save you a lot of heartache."

David C.
Boston, MA

"I got your book pretty much the day it was available. I read it and really liked your no-nonsense approach...other relationship books are filled with so much fluff! Then, I recommended it to this guy at work. He loved it, and I am sure he'll recommend it to his friends. I wish you would expand on 'Marc's 6th commandment,' and I think you can write a whole new chapter related to that! Anyway, I would have enjoyed TALKING about the book with you, but I don't want to impose. Besides, with women knocking down your door, you must be busy fixing it [the door], and time is of limited supply. :) Hope your book does great and helps lots of people."

Ellen T.
Sunnyvale, CA

"Great Book! Just finished reading it...and I must say it really cleared up why my last relationship didn't work out. Wish I had read it earlier and avoided the biggest mistake of my life! I bought this book right after breaking off my engagement. It not only reaffirmed my choice, but it's been an amazing guide as I've continued to meet other ladies. I even use it as conversational material on dates! I highly recommend it."

Tom E.
San Jose, CA

"I've read your book, and I have to say it's 'right on.' I've never really bought into that 'men from Mars and women from wherever' crap. We are fundamentally the same, or, in other words, the 'human experience' is the most important reality that the 'self' experiences. Gender differences, I suspect, should account for only a fraction of the totality we call our experience of life, except that, as the book correctly points out, we are brought up in a society that places too much importance, and attributes too much significance, to these differences."

Sharon L.
Los Angeles, CA

"EXCELLENT! VERY WELL DONE! I thoroughly enjoyed this book and couldn't put it down! It really made me laugh and smile and think about my past relationships. Very well written, incredibly insightful, and quite entertaining. It's great for both men and women. I HIGHLY recommend it."

Michael E.
San Jose, CA

"I bought this book because I've become totally frustrated with men -- trying to understand them and what they want from women, getting nowhere. I loved it! I found myself smiling, laughing, and crying because of similar experiences my friends and I have shared. The book was a real eye-opener for me, helping me take a hard look at myself and the relationships I've had. It helped me evaluate the mistakes I've made because of how I was raised. Now, not only do I have a better understanding of men but a clearer picture of what I need to do from here on to attract my ideal partner."

Amanda S.
Long Island, NY

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Why did you buy the book?
What about romance has been frustrating you?
What did the book teach you?
What new thoughts about yourself and romance do you have now?
Would you recommend the book to others, and why?
etc.

Many thanks!

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